Archive for the ‘First Things First’ Category

First Things First: Q

Monday, July 27th, 2009

Q is for Questions (you probably have tons!)

Your head is probably spinning with tons of questions – who will hold the doors open at the church?  Who is going to give toasts at the reception?  Should I hire someone to do my makeup?  What if it rains – where will we take pictures?  And on and on and on!

Start writing down every single question that pops randomly into your head and then research them – keep a notebook with you because there are so many details, you will forget the questions you have about them.  Write it down!

First Things First: P

Friday, July 24th, 2009

P is for Priorities (set yours!)

Setting your priorities is as easy (or hard depending on how you look at it) as writing down your top 5 most important things – be it food, music, photos, flowers, your dress, your rings, your honeymoon.  Once you have that list, look at your budget and make sure you have things allocated based on what YOU want – not what the wedding industry tells you should be important!

First Things First: O

Thursday, July 23rd, 2009

O is for Old (and new, borrowed and blue!)

It might seem really early to start thinking about these things but if you are planning to ask Grandma for that special pin that she used to wear or the pocket watch that Grandpa used to carry, you might want to give them time to find them!

Even a little head’s up that you would like to borrow them is a good start.

First Things First: N

Wednesday, July 22nd, 2009

N is for NCAA, NBA, NFL, NHL and MBA (even though the MBA doesn’t start with N)

This goes back to setting the date but if you are getting married in a sports town, compare your wedding date with the team’s schedule.  If your wedding happens to fall on the same weekend as a home game, block your hotel rooms early!

And if you are getting married in Columbus, don’t get married on OSU vs. U of M weekend – trust me on this, life is easier when you don’t have to fight THAT crowd.

First Things First: M

Tuesday, July 21st, 2009

M is for Mailing List (get started now!)

The all important guest list – start compiling the names and addresses of the people you plan to invite.  This is so much easier to do ahead of time and have them ready to go when it comes time to send save the dates versus scrambling to get the last few addresses so you can ship them all out at the same time.

If you are getting addresses from family members, get them started now as well – nagging is no fun!

First Things First: L

Monday, July 20th, 2009

L is for License (find out what you need early)

Most marriage licenses are only good for 30-60 days after they are issued so thinking about them right after you get engaged may seem strange but bear with me here.  We have it pretty easy here in Ohio, we only need to know our social security number and have a valid picture id available but the requirements differ by state.  In Michigan, you have to have a certified copy of your birth certificate – that takes time to order from the state of your birth!

Find out what the requirements are now and you won’t have to scramble later!

First Things First: K

Friday, July 17th, 2009

K is for Keepsakes (write it down!)

Being engaged is one of those things that you only do once (hopefully) and there is so much going on that you often forget the little things.  Start a blog or a journal, write down your experiences – you will want to remember that AWFUL dress that you tried on that made you look like a pregnant q-tip or the crazy cake lady with all the cats (don’t ask).  A blog or journal is a great place to record all the events around the wedding, keep all your different ideas and generally record this really cool, stressful, fun, scary, exciting, wild time in your life!

After the wedding and for years to come, you will love looking back and remembering all the details that time softens.  You can also use something like and make it into a book – what a cool keepsake!

First Things First: J

Thursday, July 16th, 2009

J is for Jewelry (insure the new stuff)

You are newly engaged and that brand new ring on your finger is so shiny it blinds small children!  Among the people you should be calling to share the big news is your insurance agent.  Yes, your insurance agent.  That ring is probably among the most (if not far and away the most) expensive pieces of jewelry that you own and you should have insurance on it.

You can generally add a rider to your home or renter’s insurance to cover the value of your new bling.  It doesn’t cost much and will give you a little piece of mind (I think the person who bought the ring will probably appreciate it too!)

One note, make sure to read or ask about the appraisal policy on the ring – I know that my insurance policy requires a professional appraisal of the ring every two years to remain valid.  Don’t let that lapse or the insurance policy would simply be an expensive piece of paper with no other value.

First Things First: I

Wednesday, July 15th, 2009

I is for Inspiration (it comes when/from where you might least expect it!)

Don’t just look to bridal magazines and wedding websites for ideas and inspiration for your wedding.  Design and fashion magazines and home decor blogs and websites are great starting points for ideas for your wedding.  Weddings tend to follow trends in fashion and home decor by about a year or two so if you start there, you are well ahead of the trends!

The thing about using only wedding sources for ideas is that means someone else has already done it – if you want your wedding to be unique and perfectly you then why would you use someone else’s idea?  This is not to say that you shouldn’t tear out pages from magazines, bookmark the heck out of websites and wedding blogs but use them more as a starting point, not a guideline.

Once you have ideas from all sources, take them to your planner and designer and work together to find the ideas that will work for your wedding and be uniquely yours!

First Things First: H

Tuesday, July 14th, 2009

H is for Hair (start planning now!)

Whatever you plan to do for your hair – grow it out, keep it short or something in the middle – the sooner you start planning, the better.  Go to your stylist and tell them what you have in mind – they will help you figure out what you need as far as cut and color to achieve the look you want on your wedding day.