Archive for January, 2012

Etsy Find Friday: Silk Bolero Jacket

Friday, January 27th, 2012

Often my non-summer brides ask me what they should wear over their dresses in case it is chilly on wedding day.  I usually suggest a wrap, bolero or a shrug of some kind.  Because I am so often asked for suggestions, I am always on the hunt for pretty options for my brides so when I saw MaryandAngelika’s Etsy shop, I was excited to see the different options!

Mary and Angelika are a mother/daughter team who make beautiful bolero jackets and shrugs for weddings and special occasions.  They have different styles, sleeve lengths and fabrics as well as colors to pick from – I saw a gorgeous purple, black, yellow, couple of shades of blue, silver and of course, white and ivory!  Love the splash of color these would add to a bridal ensemble!

Pricing varies based on fabric and design but to give you an idea, the long sleeve satin jacket on the left is $70 and the silver silk dupioni design on the right is $85.  Each piece is custom made to your measurements so make sure you plan accordingly with regard to time before the wedding!

Mothers of the Bride pay attention – if you have your eye on a gorgeous strapless gown but want to cover up your arms (VERY common request from my moms), these would be perfect for you as well!

Pinterest Find: Calendar Guest Book

Thursday, January 26th, 2012

When a couple gets married there are new birthdays from the other side of the family to be remembered and celebrated which is why when I saw this wonderful guest book idea from Devon and Dan’s Real Wedding on Martha Stewart Weddings via Pinterest, I thought it was brilliant! Guests sign their birthday – you could ask for wedding anniversaries as well – and you have a perfect record of everyone’s birthdays so you can make sure to send those cards on time!

You could either grab a calendar that fits your theme or you could make one with your engagement pictures!  Shutterfly lets you start the calendar any month and year you would like so you could create one beginning with your wedding month!

Quick Tip: Flickr

Wednesday, January 25th, 2012

Once upon a time, brides and grooms would buy disposable cameras for each table at their wedding with a list of suggested shots to capture or just let guests have some fun with them.  After the wedding, the couple would spend a pretty large chunk of change developing the film to get lots of lots of badly exposed, low res, badly lit pictures.  Some would turn out great but some…well, how many pictures do you need of your friend’s boyfriend that she broke up with 2 weeks after the wedding anyway?

Nowadays, we don’t see disposable cameras much because pretty much every guest at a wedding has a camera on their phone.  Those cameras produce MUCH better pictures than those throw away cameras but it can be a chore to get those pictures from guests after the wedding.

Flickr makes it easy to give your guests the chance to upload pictures to your Flickr on the fly!  Simply set up a Flickr account and go to this page to get your upload by email link:  Print out signs to place around the reception with that email address on them so guests can upload pictures during the reception or distribute small cards to send home with guests to they can upload pictures after the fact.

Extra pictures at no cost to you and your wedding budget?  Perfect!

Real Bride Chat: Ann

Friday, January 13th, 2012

Real Bride: Ann F.
Wedding Date: June 18
Ceremony and Reception Location: Zanesville Country Club

How different was your original wedding vision from your actual wedding?
Surprisingly, not much different! I wanted my wedding to be a celebration and that it was! Luckily, I had a great wedding planner to help me make my ideas a reality!

What surprised you most about the planning process?
What surprised me most about the planning process was how many little things you don’t think of until the week of your wedding! I feel like that week flew by the fastest and I wish I would’ve been a little more organized with what I needed to do.

What was your favorite part of the planning process?
I loved EVERYTHING! I had such a great time planning my wedding. Yes, there were stressful times but overall, it was great!

What surprised you the most about the wedding day?
How fast time flies by! Everyone told me that it would go soo fast and I kind of just blew them off. Let me tell me you—stop and take a few deep breaths and look around! Cherish every moment and have fun!

What was your favorite moment of the wedding day?
Seeing everyone at the reception having a blast! I wanted my reception to be like a big party and it was!

Finally, what is your best tip for future brides?
Make sure you know what pictures you want taken. Although the photographer asked, he did not get all the pictures I wanted. I would ask your planner to have a list and mark them off as they are being taken. Your wedding day is only one day and your pictures are so important!!!!!!

Thank you Ann for sharing – xoxo!

Real Bride Chat: Megan

Thursday, January 12th, 2012

Real Bride: Megan S.
Wedding Date: May 15
Ceremony and Reception Location: Darby House

How different was your original wedding vision from your actual wedding?
I honestly didn’t have the picture of what my wedding would be. I grew up picturing life with a family, but I never had the “down the aisle fantasy” or a specific vision for my wedding. When we began planning, I had random ideas of what I wanted, but still no set idea. The end result was infinitely better – a combination of everything and everyone I love in one space.

What surprised you most about the planning process?
How many details are involved! I truly didn’t realize how many decisions you have to make (and trust me, I hate decisions!). Throughout the process, Emilie would remind me of things I needed to consider that I never thought would come into play.

What was your favorite part of the planning process?
My favorite part of the planning process was the cake tasting – not going to lie!

What surprised you the most about the wedding day?
I didn’t stress out very much the week of the wedding, so that morning I woke up worried about how things would flow, especially since rain forced us out of the original outdoor site. But, everything flowed so smoothly and went so quickly. Everyone will tell you that your wedding day flies, but it truly moves faster than you could ever imagine.

What was your favorite moment of the wedding day?
I had two favorite moments. Michael and I chose to do a “first look” before the ceremony. I am very traditional, so I was pretty hesitant to do this. However, I am also a huge bawler! I wanted to get any crying out of the way before walking down the aisle, so that I could actually get my vows out. Having the few minutes with him to get pictures out of the way and spend time with my soon-to-be husband before the ceremony is something I wouldn’t take back. It was so nice to see the look on his face and be able to share that moment alone before everything got into full swing.

My other favorite part was getting to pray with him during the ceremony. We were married by a friend that is a pastor, so we spent time with him customizing our ceremony to fit our vision. We asked him for a moment to pray together after we were pronounced husband and wife. It was so special having that moment built into the ceremony.

What would you do differently?
I think, looking back, I would have started out with a planner before going to pick a venue. We started looking before we were engaged, and it was a bit overwhelming. We didn’t know what to ask and were a bit lost. Having someone that knew the ropes would have been so helpful.

Finally, what is your best tip for future brides?
My best tip is to form a team approach at the beginning. In getting our planner, my fiance, and our families onto the same team, things flowed so much more smoothly than I think they otherwise would. Emilie was knowledgeable as to what vendors had good reputations and produced high quality work, and that took a lot of stress away from us throughout the process. Do not try to take everything on yourself. Otherwise, you take away some of the fun of the actual process. Learn to TRUST other people to help make everything a reality.

Thank you Megan for sharing – xoxo!

Reality Check: Vendors are Humans Too

Thursday, January 5th, 2012

{Warning: this isn’t so much of a happy, upbeat post but it has been on my mind and heart for a while and it seemed like a good time to post it}

My mother in law passed away on Friday, July 15, 2011.  That is her, my husband and Abby at my Abby’s 1st birthday party last year.

It wasn’t completely unexpected (she had been battling kidney cancer for nearly 2 years) but the end was very fast and very sudden.  We scrambled to get things together in Columbus so we could go to Cincy and say our goodbyes.  It was a hectic and very emotional time in my family, as I am sure you can imagine.

I sent an email to all my existing couples letting them know I would be out of town and out of touch for a while.  I also put an out of the office message on my email that stated very plainly that due to a death in the family, we would be closed until the following Wednesday.  When I checked my email on Sunday I was overwhelmed with the kind words and true concern that my clients showed to my family.  It was a wonderful validation that I have built an incredible client family.

I also had in inquiry from a bride getting married in 2012 that was sent late Friday night – note this was well after I put on the out of office message.  I responded to her, asking her for some information about her wedding.  She emailed me back the next day (Monday) telling me that I had “taken too long” and was unprofessional for not getting back to her immediately and that it was “my loss” for not being more attentive to someone as “important” as her.

Give that a minute to sink in.

Someone who hadn’t hired me, someone I had never spoken to, someone who was told via an automated email message that I was dealing with a death in the family told me that my response time of 2 days over the weekend wasn’t fast enough.  I wish I were kidding.

Needless to say, I did NOT respond to that email and I frankly pity the poor vendors who wound up working with her.

Why am I sharing this story?  Because sometimes the world needs to be reminded that wedding vendors are humans too.  We LOVE what we do but we often work weird hours (many wedding vendors take Mondays off since we work so many Saturdays) and we have non-wedding related lives that we have to tend to as well.  If a photographer doesn’t respond to your Friday afternoon email until the following Tuesday or a venue doesn’t call you back for a day or two or a baker takes a while to get back to you…cut them some slack.   You never know what might be going on in their lives – their mother in law might have passed away, they might be ill themselves, or they might have just rushed their spouse to the hospital.

After all, wedding vendors are humans too.

How Men and Women See Colors

Tuesday, January 3rd, 2012

I saw this picture on Pinterest and loved it!  It speaks to a problem that I see so many couples struggle with – they see things differently and sometimes it even speak a different language!

To brides: if your groom tells you that he doesn’t have an opinion on a color or flower or tells you that he just wants you to be happy, believe him!!!  He probably doesn’t have an opinion on whether your accent color should be plum or eggplant and would be happy with whatever you decide.  Also, don’t get frustrated with him – remember, to some guys, purple is just purple.

To grooms: if your bride asks you whether you like plum or eggplant and you have an actual opinion, go ahead and share it but don’t be afraid to tell her that you would prefer she make that choice.  Also, don’t get frustrated with her if she pushes for an answer – she just wants to know you care.

Happy planning and good luck picking those colors!