Archive for October, 2010

Photobooth Props: Halloween Sales

Friday, October 29th, 2010

If you are planning to have a photobooth at your wedding and want to get some great deals on some fun props, swing by those Halloween pop up stores like Halloween Express and Halloween City early next week.  Most of them will put their wigs, props, hats and such on sale – Halloween City actually advertises that everything is 50% off starting November 1st.  Great props at a great price – always good for the budget!  Feel free to comment with what you found – love to hear about good bargains!

Things to Stop being Embarrassed About

Thursday, October 28th, 2010

I have no way to preface this gracefully so here goes – there are certain things you should never be embarrassed about when it comes to your wedding.  These things include:

1. Your budget. It is what it is – whether you have $5000 or $50,000 or $500,000.  What you have to spend is what you have to spend.  Please stop being embarrassed about how much money you have to spend on your wedding and start making sure you are spending it wisely.  If you stretch the truth, either that you have more or less than you really do, you are doing yourself a great disservice.  This is especially true when it comes to working with your planner.  We don’t want you to go over budget or fall in love with a vendor who you simply can’t fit in your budget.  Conversely, we want to recommend vendors who you will love but not if we don’t think you can afford them.  If we don’t know you have the money to work with, that little hidden gem of a photographer, a florist or a venue will never be on the table.  If you are working with a planner who charges a flat fee, you have absolutely no reason to lie about the budget – we aren’t going to make more money because your budget goes up.  Please give us the whole picture from the beginning so we can help you have the most amazing wedding possible!

2. Your weight. Every bride is beautiful.  Every.  Single.  One.  I don’t care if you are a size 2 or a size 32 – you will be absolutely beautiful on your wedding day.  And who cares what anyone else thinks?  Your fiance thinks you are the most beautiful, amazing, awesome, fantastic woman in the world, right?  Order your dress in the right size, eat real food, workout and enjoy your engagement knowing when you walk down the aisle, you will be gorgeous just as you are and the man you are walking towards won’t be able to take his eyes off you.

3. Your differences. I really thought long and hard about this one but I feel like it needs to be addressed in some way.  When I say differences, I mean everything – from color blindness to illnesses to obvious and not so obvious disabilities.  If your groom to be can’t stand or walk for long periods of time, please tell me so I don’t suggest you visit places for pictures that require a long walk to get to the pretty.  If you have diabetes and we need to watch your blood sugar levels so you don’t pass out, please tell me so I can keep an eye on you!  If you can’t distinguish shades of red from one another, please tell me so we can approach color selection and floral work differently.  I can’t help you to the best of my ability if I don’t know exactly what I need to take into consideration – I don’t know what I don’t know.

4. Your family. Some families got extra buckets when they were passing out the crazy.  It isn’t your fault but your vendors really need to know if Aunt Edna gets drunk at every function and tries to kiss the potted ferns.  We also need to know who gets along and who doesn’t – if your uncles haven’t spoken because Fred hit Charlie in the head with a golf ball (accidentally, of course) and it resulted in an all out brawl including a pond ala Happy Gilmore…well, they probably should not be seated anywhere near each other.  Let me know what could happen so we can try to help prevent it before it happens and/or manage it if it does!

5. Your priorities. Everyone has those one or two things that are really important to them when it comes to the wedding.  For some people, that is the food; for others, it might be the dress or the flowers.  Those are what are important to you and that is fine, just make sure your choices aren’t going to make your guest’s experience less than phenomenal.  A good planner will steer you away from doing anything too drastic or detrimental – i.e. not ordering enough chairs and tables for a sit down dinner or under-ordering food or not reserving a tent for an outdoor November wedding.

Please stop being embarrassed about these things already, okay?!  Keeping your vendors in the dark won’t help us help you, in fact it can be downright detrimental to your planning and your resulting wedding!

We are all adults here…right?

Tuesday, October 26th, 2010

For only the second time in my career, I was stood up for an initial meeting last week.  This bride called me, scheduled a same day meeting, called me back and put it off by a day and then stood me up with no call or email.  Needless to say, that was a bit annoying!  Why am I sharing this?  Because the few vendors I have mentioned it to have noted that this seems to be happening more and more.  Therefore, I think there are some things that need to be addressed with regard to scheduling/meeting with and hiring/not hiring vendors.  A few things I would like brides and grooms to know:

*If you can’t make it to a schedule meeting or decide not to attend a meeting – please just let us know! Whether you changed your mind, decided to hire another vendor or have come down a sudden case of malaria, a courtesy call to cancel the meeting is appropriate and appreciated.  We aren’t going to yell at you when you cancel and there is no reason to be embarrassed – I promise!  Many wedding vendors either work from home or have set hours/days that we set aside to hold appointments.  If you don’t show up, we have likely turned down another client meeting or at the very least, given up time we could have been working with or on things for our other clients! For many of us, we may have had to arrange childcare as well.

Thinking about it another way: if you had an interview for a job and the hiring manager didn’t show up, you would be annoyed, right?  You would probably call your friends and rant about how rude that manager is to have stood you up with no phone call, no explanation or apology!  You would be pretty ticked off for someone wasting your time, right?  So, how is it any different for wedding vendors?  You are basically the hiring manager for your wedding.

A 25 second phone call – 1 minute tops if you get voice mail – would save everyone a lot of annoyance and it would mean that your name would not be added to the Central Database of Couples to Avoid (CDCA)!***

*If you decide to hire someone else, please just let us know! I know that confrontation is never fun – it just isn’t.  And most people don’t like dealing with situations where they may hurt someone’s feelings but I am going to share a little known secret: wedding vendors are adults and rejection is part of this job!  We don’t take things like someone not signing with us personally.

I have said it a million times – I firmly believe that there is a wedding planner out there for everyone.  There are quite a few couples that I am NOT that wedding planner and that is okay.  I don’t want to be everyone’s wedding planner – I just want to work with the couples who I click with and who want to work with me.  Deciding to focus on quality over quantity makes me better at what I do.

Don’t forget, if we met and you weren’t into it, we probably weren’t either – just shoot us an email and let us know that you went with someone else especially if the vendor tells you they are holding the day for you for a certain amount of time.  Don’t be shocked if you get an email back asking who did you hire – not trying to be nosy or contrary but I want to know who you did end up with and why.  It just makes me a better planner in the long run.

To sum up – be an adult and communicate, even especially when it is potentially awkward.  Just do it – don’t make me add your name to the CDCA.***

***Just kidding!  There is no CDCA but don’t think that vendors don’t share names of couples who are exceptionally rude, unrealistic, plain old inconsiderate or those who should probably not be allowed outside unattended.  Not going to lie, we do.

New Song: Marry Me

Saturday, October 23rd, 2010

I heard the end of this song on the radio last week and immediately looked it up online when I got home – I just loved the song and the lyrics are so sweet.  It would be a great first dance song!

Marry Me by Train

Forever can never be long enough for me
Feel like I’ve had long enough with you
Forget the world now, we won’t let them see
But there’s one thing left to do

Now that the weight has lifted
Love has surely shifted my way

Marry me today and every day
Marry me if I ever get the nerve to say hello in this cafe
Say you will, say you will

Together can never be close enough for me
Feel like I am close enough to you
You wear white and I’ll wear out the words I love you
And you’re beautiful

Now that the wait is over
And love and has finally shown her my way

Marry me today and every day
Marry me if I ever get the nerve to say hello in this cafe
Say you will, say you will

Promise me you’ll always be happy by my side
I promise to sing to you when all the music dies

And marry me today and everyday
Marry me if I ever get the nerve to say hello in this cafe

Say you will, say you will marry me


You can listen to the song on Train’s site – just click on the link for Marry Me.

Etsy Find Friday: Silk Chair Sash

Friday, October 8th, 2010

Remember that movie “The Wedding Singer”?  And remember the giant wicker and red chairs that the banquet hall has the brides and grooms sit in?  Yes, those.  This post is NOT about those.  I do love when the bride and groom have something on their chairs to mark them as seats of honor – wreathes, flowers, signs of some kind.  So when I saw these lovely embroidered silk sashes from Bella Bride Designs, I knew I wanted to share!

I also love their custom cocktail napkins and custom candy buffet bags – so cute!

Out of the Office!

Sunday, October 3rd, 2010

Emilie Duncan Event Planning will be closed Monday and Tuesday, October 4th and 5th.  We will return all emails and phone calls on Wednesday, October 6.

Have a lovely beginning of the week!