Archive for January, 2006

96. See another concert at House of Blues Cleveland

Sunday, January 29th, 2006

96. See another concert at House of Blues Cleveland

Okay, okay, I know the picture is awful but give me a break I took it from my Treo from 3rd row of the balcony! Now it doesn’t look so bad does it? I also have video from said show taken by said Treo but that really doesn’t sound or look that good.

Lifehouse put on a great show. They did a couple of covers, some old stuff, some new stuff. Even Randy thought it was a good show and he isn’t that big a fan – they are “usually too poppy” for his liking. The lead singer has an incredible live voice and from the 3rd row in the balcony looked a little like Stifler from the American Pie movies.

HOB is an amazing place to see a show but a warning, see one and you won’t ever want to see a show anywhere else. Randy is threatening to boycott every other venue. We shall see.

I just got an email from…myself?

Friday, January 27th, 2006

I was born Emilie Jane Curtis. When I married Randy, I kept my maiden name as my middle name and dropped the Jane – so legally I am Emilie Curtis Duncan. I don’t use Curtis, but I kept it because it was a part of my identity for 26 years and it felt wrong to completely drop it.

(Bear with me, there is a point here. Really.)

Anyway, I was checking my email the other day and up popped a contact from my blog. I did an complete double take when I saw who it was from – it was from me! Or at least a former me or a life twin as she called it – I got an email from Emilie Curtis.

Turns out she did a Google search on her name (something you should all do, it can be very interesting to find out what is out there about you and find other people who share your name) and up popped a post I made that included my maiden name. Most people who share our first name spell it Emily, so finding someone with Emilie is rare – I have only run across a handful in my life.

Not only do we share the same name, she has a dog named Truman.

Life twin indeed!

So lost in a sea of tulle that even Martha couldn't find you?

Friday, January 20th, 2006

Too often in the frenzy of planning a wedding and preparing for THE BIG DAY, the real reason for what is about to happen gets lost. Very lost. Couples lose sight of why they are doing all this planning and lose touch with each other. You can get so wrapped up in the details of the day because there are so many – the photos, the dresses, the invitations, the food, and on and on and on! It is overwhelming and exciting and frustrating and extremely time consuming and it can easily take over your life.

I know what those of you who aren’t married yet are thinking: “No way would that ever happen to me! I think I can control myself around wedding gowns and hydrangeas just fine, thankyouverymuch. I’ve never even picked up a bridal magazine, so no worries here. And anyway, my boyfriend and I will be great, I already know he will be really involved in the planning.”

Um-kay. Check back with me about 3 months before your wedding and see if you can honestly say the same thing. Now, I will say that these issues don’t happen to everyone but for most there are at least a few symptoms. Here is a handy guide for you to help recognize when trouble is on the horizon and keep it at bay:

Symptom: You forget you have a fiance while talking to vendors.
Commonly used phrases: “For MY wedding, I want…”, “MY day will be perfect”
Solutions: Repeat after me, “For OUR wedding, I want…” Try to remember that without your fiance, none of this would be happening – unless you plan on being like the woman who married a dolphin or the one who married herself while wearing a dress covered with latex nipples. (No, I am not making these up, go Google it.) Also, don’t forget that he is the one you will be spending the rest of your life with so make sure he will still like you when all this is done.

Symptom: You have temper tantrums over things that would have never even crossed your mind before that shiny thing slid onto your finger for the first time. This behavior is basically a regression to the same mental state that said that dropping to the floor to flop around like a dying carp while screaming at the top of your lungs because the shoes you wanted to wear with Big Bird on them did not, in fact, match the dress you hate that your Mother – who is evil – is trying to make you wear was an appropriate way to handle conflict.
Commonly used phrases: “But the invitations don’t match my dress exactly!”, “_______ better not happen on my wedding day or I will LOSE IT!!” (you fill in the blank with anything at all like rain, getting a cold, someone breathing too loud in the church) and “My wedding is ruined!”
Solutions: Remember why you are doing this! You are marrying the love of your life, not putting on a wedding to impress the world. And really, if someone brings an invite with them to the wedding so they can make sure that you match it, tell them to leave immediately and then step on their toes in your pretty shoes. Really hard. After all, the only things you need to get married are a license, you, him, someone who is legally ordained to marry you and maybe a witness or two. The rest is icing on the cake – which you really don’t have to have either when it all comes down to it.

Symptom: You get really mad at your fiance/mother/best friend for not being just as upset as you are when the invitations don’t match your dress perfectly.
Commonly used phrases: “Honey, I know you really DO care so just tell me which one you like better, the roses or the daisies.”, “No, Mom, I am not going to calm down!”
Solutions: Understand that your wedding is more important to you than anyone else in the world, even your fiance. Period. Trying to make them care more than they actually do will simply backfire into lots of shrugging and conversation avoidance by all parties – not a fun way to spend your engagement. Maybe, just maybe, it isn’t that he doesn’t care but he knows that whatever he says will somehow be wrong so he just wants you to be happy. Revel in those moments.

Symptom: You have major delusions of grandeur.
Commonly used phrases: “Everyone is going to be in tears when they see me for the first time!” (this one is accompanied with a somewhat evil twinkle in the bride’s eye as if to imply that unless everyone in attendance spontaneously bursts into sobs the moment she is visible, she is gonna be maaaaaddddd)
Solutions: Realize how seriously freakish would that be. Really. Crying at the vows is one thing, everyone crying at the sight of the bride says something is very, very wrong!

To sum it up, don’t lose sight of the real reason you are planning a wedding – it gets you to the marriage and the marriage lasts a lot longer than the wedding. And if things get too tough (or you exhibit any of the above symptoms), take a break from the plans. Walk away for a day or a week or even just an evening. Trust me, the plans will be there when you go back to them and you relationship will be better off in the long run.

Unless your fiance is a dolphin or you have latex nipples on your dress, then maybe just walk away for good. (I can’t wait to see the search engine hits I get from that phrase!)

In honor of Martin Luther King, Jr.

Monday, January 16th, 2006

Martin Luther King, Jr. would have been 77 on January 15. I often wonder how much different our world would be had he lived beyond his tragically short 39 years.

The first time I heard the words of Martin Luther King, Jr.’s “I Have a Dream” speech I got chills. I still get chills when I read those words – such hope, such strength.

In honor of MLK’s birthday, take a moment and read the full text of his most famous speech – I Have a Dream.

And when this happens, When we allow freedom to ring, when we let it ring from every village and every hamlet, from every state and every city, we will be able to speed up that day when all of God’s children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics, will be able to join hands and sing in the words of the old Negro spiritual, “Free at last! free at last! thank God Almighty, we are free at last!”

New Gallery on EDEP!

Friday, January 13th, 2006

Cory and Thomas by Steve Mastroianni

We call this "Truman Pouting"

Sunday, January 8th, 2006

Randy sent me this last night. He says Truman misses me, I say Truman was pouting because he wasn’t getting either enough attention or enough treats. Either way, he looks pitiful, doesn’t he?

BookShelf: InStyle Weddings

Sunday, January 8th, 2006

InStyle Weddings

The Basics
Officially published on January 3, 2006, although I would swear I saw copies in the bigger chain stores prior to Christmas. This is a coffee table style book, heavy on the eye candy versus offering truly practical advice – of course, since when was basing your wedding on what celebs do considered practical?

The book is divided into broad stroke sections including:
The Ring
The Invitation
The Dress
The Flowers
The Cake
The Photography
The Wedding Party
The Ceremony
The Reception
The Registry

The book also includes profiles of celebs weddings. Which given the current state of divorce in Hollywood, I was surprised to notice that there were more couples featured who are still together versus divorced.

The Good
This book has a fabulous section on styles of rings, cuts of diamonds and different options beyond the classic (and still fabulous) solitaire. It also gives a nice crash course in invitations and other paper accessories like escort cards and menus. The pictures are fabulous and if you like to see glimpses into other people’s weddings (bearing in mind that these other people spent more on their weddings than most people in the US make in a year) then this is the book for you. Follows the same lines as the magazine – fun to look at with lots of pretty things.

The Not Quite As Good
My biggest complaint is they didn’t included info on transportation or videography, both of which can be a very important part of the day. As far as what they did include, the chapter on flowers is definitely eye candy and there are some unique bouquets featured, I would have liked to see more! The things that modern designers are doing with mixing flowers and colors is amazing and they could have included more of those ideas.

The Bad
When you consider the size, complexity and style of the weddings profiled in this book, you must realize that the far majority of these couples had a wedding coordinator. Nowhere in the book (granted, I have not read every single word) is the role of the WC mentioned. I know this book is for people who might not be able to afford the celeb style wedding but this just reinforces the myth that the WC is a luxury versus what it truly is these days, an affordable necessity.

All in All
Good book if you are interested in having it around after the wedding – otherwise the $45 price tag would be money not well spent.

Welcome to the BookShelf!

Sunday, January 8th, 2006

Something new here on the blog!

I have a bookshelf full of wedding and event related books with subjects ranging from planning a wedding incorporating different ethnic and religious traditions to selecting the perfect diamond to drink recipe books to basic entertaining ideas. Last count was 452,603 books (now bear in mind that figure comes from Randy who may be exaggerating just a titch.)

Anyway, people see all the books I have and ask me which ones are good, which ones are worth buying or at least checking out of the library, which ones are a waste of time. In honor of those questions, I have decided to start the BookShelf. From time to time, I will post my reviews of different wedding and event planning books in my collection. Hopefully this will help you select which books should be in your collection and which ones should be avoided like Tostios with a touch of lime flavor (I just tried these and hate them, don’t buy those either.)

Let me know if there are any books in particular that you would like to hear about!

Way Overboard

Saturday, January 7th, 2006

Can anyone tell me why the movie Overboard is always on tv on at least one channel (sometimes more) on the weekends?

Mysteries of the universe and television programming.

Warning: Cute Overload

Wednesday, January 4th, 2006

In a bad mood? Feeling gloomy?

Cute Overload will most certainly cheer you up.

Be prepared to either squawk and squeal over how cute they are or just sigh once or twice. Either way, cuteness abounds!

Seriously, tell me that this doesn’t make you smile?